Self Determination

I have come to a very hard but easy conclusion. (If that is possible) We often look at others and so easily can determine their flaws and give advice... All the while we can not take our own judgments and apply them to ourselves. Having the desire to be loved or wanting someone to love you is innate. Knowing what is love and how to embrace it is hard. We can only love the best way we know how and in return we love others the same way. This may not be the way the person wants to be loved but its all you know how to do. As adults we are not adaptable to change because we are in our comfort zone (safe haven). We feel very uncomfortable with a mear thought of the word change. The defense mechanisms go up quick and we become defensive. Taking the time out to figure out who you are is the only way you can add validity to anyone that is special to you. So often we rush into situations because that sense of being wanted is there. Of coarse, the person you meet will have his/her Easter suit on and polished to the "t". Know what to say and how to make you feel good. Give them the 90 days probation test. Look if its good enough for jobs to test employees out its definitely good enough for you. Dont overlook the things you think its cute for now or controling. Take head and run for the door. People show you who they really are. We just choose to overlook it and deal with it. Don't be so open and upfront. Didnt your mother tell you about talking to strangers. Why tell someone your entire story that took years to write. If someone sold you a bad car, you wouldnt return it? The same goes here.... You deserve nothing less but to be treated with dignity and respect. Knowing your worth is epic determining how much you are worth is priceless.